About

"Self awareness without self compassion is just giving your inner critic a megaphone."

Steph Ellen

Hi, I'm Steph Ellen

Founder of Finding Flow State coaching

This is my Story

Hey, I’m Steph — trauma-informed performance coach, nervous system , and former overthinking overachiever turned deeply fulfilled high-performer.

I help highly sensitive, big-hearted high achievers stop spiraling, second-guessing, and white-knuckling their way through life — so they can create success that actually feels good in their body.

But I wasn’t always this grounded.

Back in 2019, I was "living my dream" externally:

✅ working as an equine veterinarian — something I'd worked for 10+ years to achieve

✅ had recently emigrated to Australia from the UK

✅ just finished my first ultra-marathon

✅ in a 9 year relationship with my college boyfriend with a 5-year plan

What was actually happening internally:

⚠️ relentless inner critic

⚠️ crippling perfectionism

⚠️ extremely unhealthy relationship with food & my body

⚠️ living for the weekend

⚠️ repressed trauma & dissociation

My body finally said “enough” — cue burnout, two stress fractures, and (no joke) getting kicked in the face by a horse.

🚨 Spoiler alert: the universe gets very loud when you ignore it. 🚨

It's a cliche for a reason — that breakdown became the breakthrough that led me into the world of healing, nervous system work, and what I now call sustainable success — success without the self-abandonment.

These days, I blend deep coaching, neuroscience-informed tools, subconscious rewiring, energetics, and ancient wisdom to help high achievers like you unlock flow, purpose, and results that don’t require self-sacrifice.

Credentials? I'm glad you asked.

Obviously (well, hopefully it should be obvious) I am a certified life coach (through the ICF-accredited Highest Self Institute).

But the jewel in my crown is Aaruka® Therapy — a globally recognised, complete trauma healing modality that combines somatics, subconscious repogramming, memory processing & energetics.

I am also one of only 6 Aaruka® Therapists worldwide who has has underdone additional intensive training on dealing with complex and sexual trauma with Jessica Ella, the founder of Aaruka®

In addition to this, I am a trauma-informed 350hr yoga teacher & qualified breathwork facilitator so always infuse the principles of ancient wisdom and Eastern philosophy.

My background as an equine veterinarian gives me the critical thinking, rigorous scientific understanding and capacity to hold space compassionately in times of crisis or heightened emotion.

As you can probably tell, I'm a lifelong learner with a healthy dose of skepticism for 'one-size-fits-all' advice and surface level transformations (I'm also a Gemini sun Aries Rising & Aries Moon with a Gemini stellium so you bet I'll dive DEEP and get to the bottom of everything and hold you accountable).

But more than anything? I’m someone who understands your uniquely sensitive nervous system and your razor-sharp awareness.

I understand what it means to be a big feeler with an even bigger vision — to crave flow & freedom without frying your nervous system in the process.

If you're drawn specifically to my work, I already know you are profoundly capable of healing and creating an extraordinary life — because this work does not call in those who aren't.

Let’s get you there.

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Sensitivity is not fragility. The world needs more sensitive visionaries in positions of power & influence.

—Steph Ellen